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should children be allowed to trade toys without permission?

alguientemira asked:


my daughter’s friend (both 10) is used to trading toys with all her friends…

the first time she traded with my daughter, my daughter whined and cried that she missed her toy and I went and bought her another one, but I told her the rule now is NO TRADING.

her friend is over and I just found her traded toys and I brought up and my daughter says she forgot.
she asked me to just this time, I said firm NO and she has to ask me permission before she does.
I also reminded her that when children loose stuff parents call me asking me if they are here and I don’t like them thinking that they are.

anyway, she is upset with me now…
I just feel that the issue shouldn’t be a big deal, but tonight it was cause she was crying and we caused a scene in front of her friend.
I feel so mean, is this normal lol
ok,
yes and not doesn’t help…
well lol, I felt like I made most of the scene the firm way I spoke to her…

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5 Responses to “should children be allowed to trade toys without permission?”

  1. Logan and Ella's Mommy on June 16th, 2011 11:04 pm

    Well yes and no. It’s good for her to be independant and what not but I did that when I was her age and now, as an adult (and even then) I am said I did.

  2. Tarek on June 18th, 2011 5:00 am

    I think you did the right thing. The reason she’s making a scene to make you re-evaluate your decision, and she’s doing a good job, isn’t she? :)

  3. Jonathan on June 20th, 2011 1:42 pm

    She should be able to trade when she meets the maturity of which she learns the value of other items and will not trade a digital camera for a candy stick because one tastes better. Probably age 12? From age 10 they seem to mature very quickly…

  4. ♥ME♥ on June 22nd, 2011 9:31 pm

    That the same rule in our house. Good job mom!

  5. pandabear on June 26th, 2011 4:13 am

    It’s normal and like someone else said, if they understand the value of things, then I think it’s OK. If she does understand and wants to, let her trade, but don’t re buy it for her later when she realizes she still wants the toy she traded. That way she learns that trading means the toy is gone for good (and will think twice about trading) and not sure I’ll trade cause mommy will buy it for me again.